Because having children is a choice; and because motherhood is not equal to sainthood
“I would have been a terrible mother because I’m basically a very selfish human being. Not that that has stopped most people going off and having children.”
We are not quite sure when it happened, but at some stage over time it became an accepted notion that women MUST procreate to be considered human. Celebrity mother after mother gave tear filled interviews about the process of birthing, their opinions on parenthood, and how “this was the most difficult thing they’d ever done.” Memes comparing motherhood to sainthood became the norm – with this recent ad by Sharman Joshi being a particularly egregious example.
“I have come to believe there are three sorts of women, when it comes to questions of maternity. There are women who are born to be mothers, women who are born to be aunties, and women who should not be allowed within ten feet of a child. It’s really important to know which category you belong to
At MBRB, we love our little Baby Baguette to bits. But at the same time, we are cognisant of the fact that bringing her up-while fun and challenging and rewarding- is not quite as difficult as finding the cure for cancer or understanding string theory. We love our mummy friends, but also the single friends who spend their times in a dozen other fruitful (and frivolous) ways, without ever feeling that yawning chasm in their lives that society insists they must be experiencing. That is why Your Daily Read today is quotes from 25 women who don’t have any children and are not any less fulfilled or happy for that.
We love nearly all of them, and hope their powerful words will help women stop judging other women. Because, really, isn’t feminism at the end of the day about having the right to make choices irrespective of your gender ? So why should motherhood be any different? God knows the Planet doesn’t need everyone to have a progeny. So why should we insist?
And journalists, could you please stop asking women celebrities this question too?
Is having children on your priority list?
“I’m not going to answer that question. I’m not mad at you for asking that question, but I’ve said it before: I don’t think people ask men those questions.”
Read more, here.
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